Hi to everybody...woke up at 5.30 this morning with my head fucked...after an hour I had a bad stomach and hubby brought me a cup of tea when he came home at 6.30 again and twenty minutes later I had to go downstairs and take some Gaviscon to settle the pain down...it worked.
Why was my head fucked? Now, if I tell you, I'm going to be Mrs. Damned unpopular, but quite frankly, I don't mind.
Last night was Bloscar night, I was named in three sections and lost in all three, so not just one rejection, which would have been okay, but in all three was a bit bloody much...I didn't ask to be put in it, I didn't want to be in it, and I didn't ask to be humiliated at the end of it. Everybody who lost last night, if they were brutally honest, had to be disappointed in varying degrees, but all the bloggers who didn't even get a nomination at all must also be wondering what it is that so unacceptable or boring or unpopular about their blog...
My point is, and it's a harsh truth I think, everybody who blogs here is a loser in the ocean of the world outside...we're either lonely, damaged, disabled, depressed, disillusioned or an outsider who hasn't found acceptance anywhere else. There may also be a few who just like a wider public to air their views, but they're a rarity. Outside, the world is brutally competitive and most people are losers...that is they have little or not control over their lives and that is the general lot of most of us.
Blogging, for some of us, is a way of compensating for this helplessness and inability to compete in the world. In the relatively safe confines of blog world, we share ourselves in ways that we might not have done with anybody else. It's a puddle compared to the world and one which is worth not polluting with the very thing that drove us here...fucking competitiveness...but here it is and it seems everybody is cheering it on and saying well done for introducing and keeping it going. Well, here's one blogger who say, damn it, not here...keep bloody competitiveness out of this otherwise very pleasant area of blog land...no wonder people drift away if they think they're being judged constantly...and that's exactly what they are being now...until a month ago, I'd never heard of the damned Bloscars and I really, really wish I hadn't...it's just left a sour damned taste over the whole of this blog...so my profuse apologies for spoiling everybody's fun, but this is how I feel today...
In fact strongly enough to wonder why the hell I'm here if this is as competitive as the outside world...if it is, then all our friendships are equally shallow and that's bloody sad...
Big hugs to one and all in spite of being fucking angry today....
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- http://www.devon-photography.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 11:24:42
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 11:52:49
Sorry, Aj, but I cannot see it as a bit of fun...go into the outside world to see if the people nominated for Oscars in the film industry think that losing is a bit of fun...I don't think so, which is why so many are in such a physical, emotional and mental mess...they feel rejected as do all normal human beings, and this Bloscar business is built on the same premise...who's the best at one or other aspect of blogging, which means that there are a lot of losers in here in our bit of the world...that's not funny, that's wounding...okay, it's not the damned end of the world, but it's an unnecessary addition to blog land that I really, really wish wasn't here...big hugs...
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- http://www.devon-photography.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 11:57:57
See, the difference is I'd think the Oscars etc, that's what they do... although I've not been one to get too bothered about work either, I've never been nominated for doing my job well

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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:08:21
So why introduce it here? You do your job I presume to the best of your ability and don't, by the sound of it, get much appreciation, but you don't feel the need for it either...we blog away happily here so why introduce the concept of the best amongst us? Not sure what you mean about the Oscars doing what they do...LOL...big hugs..
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- http://www.devon-photography.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:12:16
Hehe, but this is fun, I feel honoured to have picked a couple up but I'd do what I got them for (helpful and photos) even if this wasn't around, and I don't begrudge the people who beat me out over the last three years for ones I was nominated for

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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:26:34
Well I'm glad you got two
You must be feeling very chuffed. I am chatting here with somebody who clearly agrees with the whole concept so don't expect you to really support my argument against it...
I didn't know it had been going for three years...only just heard of it last month...one thing that's also at odds here...most of the winners are unknown to me as bloggers because not amongst my friends, which does imply if you haven't got a large group of friends to vote for you, you're going to lose in any case...how fair is that? I suppose I could start inviting all the winners to be amongst my friends, but that would be really shallow of me...the desire to mix with the best and all that...HLOL...Big hugs...-
- http://www.devon-photography.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:31:14
I understand your argument, I really do, it's a worry that's come to me in the past, we have had trouble in the past with someone who felt they deserved to win one and then caused trouble when they didn't... although they had over 300 friends on their list so...
I think your second point is a real problem, we try very hard each year, and by that I mean all the bloggers that support it, to get the Bloscars "out there" into the wider blogworld.
I personally have often nominated and voted for people not on my list because I've moved around blogworld and met these people, although not a friend I can still appreciate what they do.
As with the example above, a big friends list doesn't always win
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 13:02:40
You could carry on justifying its existence forever, Aj, but you're the missing the point rather...I'm basically against introducing competitiveness into the blog world because there's enough of it in the outside world to ruin everything...it's just a small haven of peace where people can come and have their say AND NOT BE JUDGED...this is the crux of my argument...bloscars introduced an element of judgement as do Best Blogs but that's something else I've ranted about earlier HLOL...BCUK's team said they have now tweaked it so that the same old faces don't keep appearing but some do nonetheless, but I'm not going to get further changes so have had to accept the darned things are going to continue...we'll probably have to continue to agree to differ here...you enjoy them, I dislike them intensely...HLOL...big hugs in spite of our differences of opinion...

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- 29.02.2008 @ 11:52:57
I do'nt know anything about this 'bloscar' thing , and nor do I care , to be honest .
Is it just one persons opinion , or what ?
Even if I thought I'd been nominated I still would'nt care , or bother to try to find out :
If the results really are chosen by a panel of distinguished people who take the time to read manifild 'blogs - In which case , have they nothing better to do ? - then I might care slightly , though I suspect it's just someones silly idea , ultimately to get themself noticed .
A few months ago I truthfully said that I'd never checked my visitor - statistics - Though I have since been doing so most days , out of curiosity , and it's nice to get 100 + visitors some days , though if it's only 20 or so some other days that's okay , at least I know I'm not just 'talking to myself' , and that some people find my output worth reading .
I think you're about right about why most of us are here ; also for a few of us it's a way of filling a creative void .
Have a good rest of today , love , - martin .-
- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:01:43
Glad you take that attitude, Martin, just wish I did...but I can't...Competitiveness causes both actual and trade wars, it helps divide people, and helps destroy our planet as we're so intent on winning, we don't care what we ruin in the process...It's a primitive instinct that we should have risen above a long time ago, but seem quite unable to do so, and the consequences are terrible...I don't bother with the stats on the blog overview because they're not accurate at all...if you get a counter, you get a better idea of how many people visit your blog, and as long as some still visit, I guess most of us keep on doing it...there must be some though who decide to drop out when the stats show very few visitors, which is a real shame...big hugs...
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- 29.02.2008 @ 16:37:37
Thanks Jenny , and yes but - so far as I know - there's no financial reward - that's not what we're here for - and we do'nt know other people's visitor figures , so what's there to be competitive about ?
The bloscar thing sounds like silly , cliquey nonsense to me , best ignored .
I realise that you long for appreciation , and I can assure you that you're appreciated by your friends here .
Shall I write the the Prime Minister to reccomend you for an honour ?
You would get to meet The Queen , or Prince Charles , and would'nt ' Dame Jenny ' sound nice !
Hugs returned , - Martin .-
- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 16:53:04
Do I long for appreciation??? I just want to get a decent amount of comments actually nothing more, and to have a good old debate every now and then...glad to know I'm appreciated by my friends...HLOL...and bugger Dame Jenny..well, not literally of course...titles and honours are just a pain in the butt and most of the people who have them certainly haven't merited them...as a died in the wool socialist...not my cup of tea at all, so no, thanks, Martin...if I met the Queen, I'd probably be arrested for speaking my mind to that atrociously stand offish snob...and as for Charles and his treatment of his virgin first wife...he should be bloody ashamed of himself...oh, damn you've induced another rant...shame on you, Martin...big hugs...

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- 29.02.2008 @ 17:11:05
I was only teasing you , I thought you'd feel like that , you've made me laugh !
Hugs , ~ martin .-
- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 18:43:47
Predictable aren't I...HLOL...big hugs...
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- 29.02.2008 @ 12:08:25
sorry it has got to you in this way jen..i for one dont really care ..i blog because i just enjoy it..|i like to hear other peoples gossip and woes and tribulations as well as the good things. ..competivness is in our culture and for some it is needed for others it does not matter...this bloscar thing was just a laugh ...a bit of fun...
you and i for one will have different view points and it is good to be able to express them and then just agree to differ....come on jen put it back in the bag and be back to your usual jolly self...with abit of doom and gloom thrown in *waits for slap*
the blog is often good to meet people that to be honest in youtr own world you would never talk to...people who are not normally the ones you wou;ld have chats with.
"everybody who blogs here is a loser in the ocean of the world outside...we're either lonely, damaged, disabled, depressed, disillusioned or an outsider who hasn't found acceptance anywhere else".
NICE RANT jen..
big hug

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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:16:57
Thanks, Jack...LOL...I agree with everything you've said about meeting people who, normally, you would not have the opportunity to chat to, but I'm not going to back off and say okay it was all a bit of fun...it's one of those things I feel very strongly about...competitiveness in my mind is truly destructive, and I'll keep ranting on about it, and even more so if it impinges on a bit of my world where I really hoped it wouldn't...but seems we can't avoid it...and you've got to have ying and yang so I've always balanced my 'jolly self' with a portion of doom and gloom just to keep things real...
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- 29.02.2008 @ 13:15:57
thats sounds much better jen..you are never going to stop the competitive streak in people and on occasions it is a good thing or no one would have bothered to cross the atlantic or climb everest..but nor would hitler have succeded or any of the despots so as you say ying and yang...
go on sho me your ying
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 13:20:29
I'm going to have my lunch now but I'll be back...HLOL..big hugs...
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- 29.02.2008 @ 13:25:07
thats what arnie said
...should i be scared!!??? oh jen did you see my last post??-
- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 14:32:26
I'm back, Jack...
And I've just replied to your comment and the blog crashed HLOL...bloody typical...here goes again...my ying answer is with a prime example of competitiveness in the modern world...Kenya has recently had an election with two men proclaiming themselves the winner, and, as a result the killing started, and no amount of mediation would enable them to lay down their competitive spirit for the sake of their people, and the killing continued. Now, at last, but really so late, they've decided to co-operate by changing the constitution of Kenya to accommodate both men's requirements for peace. Thousands have died horrible deaths and it will take many years for these bitter memories to be erased after years of the different tribes living in peace together...Co-operation is the only way the human race is going to survive in the future. I know that competitiveness exists in humans and maybe the best way to deal with it is to guide it into harmless expressions of it...that used to be sports but since huge amounts of money entered into the equation competitiveness has become savage...I don't know the solution to this primitive behaviour, but we'd better learn quickly because over six billion people and growing in number cannot all be winners and if the billions of losers ever rise up en masse, there'll be nobody left at the end of the conflict...big hugs....and not sure about your last post...will check it out 
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- 29.02.2008 @ 14:41:17
Big hugs jen!! as i always say to my kids..your always a winner in my eyes..


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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 14:47:14
Hugs back, Jack...
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- 29.02.2008 @ 12:37:39
Sorry you lost in all three that you were nominated in. It doesn't bother me I didn't get anything, Blogging to me is just a bit of 'mindless fun' as AJ said it. I just want to get my thoughts down in a diary and don't care what people think to what I say!

But you have made some valid points!
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 13:08:17
Not sure whether I agree blogging is 'mindless' fun...anything that fills a void in people's lives shouldn't be judged to be mindless...
It's a need that blogging fulfils up to a point, and probably helps keep a lot of people on the rails who would otherwise live in quiet desperation for company and a place to go to share their lives with others...people with very fulfilled lives seldom blog, I would have thought...winners in this world wouldn't have the time or the inclination unless they feel the need for personal acclamation from fans etc...glad you can see I'm made some valid points as well...
...big hugs, Chyna...
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- 29.02.2008 @ 12:37:53
Jen, I've never been nominated for the Bloscars, although I follow it every year. I never vote either, because I generally don't read most of the blogs that are nominated. However, three of my friends were winners this year, and I'm pleased as anything for them.
It really is just a bit of fun - like a fancy dress costume competition at primary school or whatever.
I have to say - I wonder if you would feel the same if you had won one of the nominations?-
- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 13:17:37
Ah, I was waiting for somebody to ask me the last part, and yes, I would still feel the same...it might give me a moment or two's satisfaction then I would feel bloody guilty for feeling that, knowing how against competitiveness I am...and would then be really pissed off that I am being put in the position of feeling grateful for something I neither wanted nor needed...so hope that answers your question...and, if you've been through the fancy dress comps with your kids, you should know how competitive Mum's get when it comes to creating the costumes, and how peed off they are in private when they lose...HLOL...nothing nice about Mum's and their kids whenever a competition is involved...never had them in either of my children's schools so never had to participate...thank bloody goodness...would have hated it...and the kids are also really disappointed when they lose as well...so just a damned shame that it exists at all...teaching them from a very early age that competitiveness is just a part of our world and they better get used to losing, because the majority always will...big hugs....
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- 29.02.2008 @ 12:41:56
Yeah, I agree with the afore mentioned, I didn't even know when it was on, and just didn't care. But then saying that, I can see your point. When I was on another blog site, they used to have a top 50 blogs. I would get really upset if I didn't make it into the 50, and used to blog myself stupid just to try to get in. It consumed my days trying to stay in as long as possible. When I came here I settled down a lot, and just don't care if I'm popular or not, just as long as my friends in here care about what I write. I do tend to agree on so many levels here jen; think you hit the nail on the head for some users.
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 13:10:31
Thanks, Dora...if competitiveness was absent, there would be no need for anybody to feel compelled to try to get into the Best Blogs or the Bloscars...pity it's present but there we go...I've had my rant, and will probably have it again if I stay for any length of time...HLOL...big hugs...
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- http://subville.blog.co.uk/
- 29.02.2008 @ 12:47:39
Blimey! We were just having a laugh. I understand if you take it really seriously you could break it down to - judgement, rejection, etc. But it isn't about that.
I don't feel 'special' cos I have a nice picture, only the fact that my beloved **gave** me the picture makes me feel good.
Sorry you feel like this, it was never meant to make folk feel crappy. *hugs* xx-
- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 14:50:46
Told you I wasn't going to be Mrs Popular today, but I felt strongly enough about it to not button my mouth and keep quiet..don't actually do that very often...
Not in my nature not to speak out if I feel strongly about something...
Glad you enjoyed it, but I'm probably not alone in regretting it was there at all...big hugs to you...-
- http://subville.blog.co.uk/
- 29.02.2008 @ 14:56:14
Well, I for one am glad you felt able to voice it. Nothing good ever happens with squashed emotions x
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- 29.02.2008 @ 18:40:21
I blog because it's a way to vent all the words that I have had inside for the last 2 years. For me it's a community here and a stepping stone to writing on Wordpress. I agree that competitive stuff can be a bad thing and this is such a big place it's hard to have an award thing. Tis better to have the little awards that go around WP that other bloggers send to you. I had some concerns when the Bloscars was first announced and I was hoping it didn't make anyone feel left out. I'm glad we can discuss this openly, one of the benefits of this blog.
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 18:58:24
I don't see how it can avoid making some people feel left out...by its very existence it separates people from those who are classed as the best and winners from those who must obviously be mediocre because losers...that's very sad to me...and this does need airing I think, because I really don't believe I'm alone in feeling this, maybe I'm the only one just mouthy enough to come out with it HLOL...and besides I'm too bloody old now to stand on ceremony and bite my tongue...big hugs to you...XX
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- 29.02.2008 @ 19:15:28
I do think you have a point in that the Bloscars are competetive and could make some people feel that they are less popular or whatever, personally I don't give a toss about it, I do believe it is just in fun and not to be taken too seriously - on the other hand I also understand where you are coming from Jen, I can't agree with you on the reasons most people blog though -many people now work from home (me) and it is a new way to communicate and make friends or have a laugh. Most people now have a blog - it is like an on-line diary for some, a way of communicating as valid as any other. In fact i think it is the world moving into a different way of communicating, not just for losers, since when were you a loser? I think you just had a ranty 5 minutes
So who wants to vote on whether we have the Bloscars or not, and i didn't get a chance to vote or anything else because i wasn't informed about it which was very annoying, but sod it lifes too short to let it get to you, and i'm going to come up and meet you next time I'm up your way -we'll go have a paddle
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 29.02.2008 @ 20:13:44
HLOL...I didn't mean losers in the sense of pathetic, I meant people who for one reason or another use blogs as a means of filling a void in their lives, who have lost out on an aspect of their lives that cannot be filled any other way right now...I think if you had loads of friends who surrounded your life, you wouldn't blog. You probably wouldn't have time to do so...LOL...communicating mainly via the comp I'm not wholly sure is a very healthy way to live...it's a safer way to communicate in that if things get out of hand, you can just move on and you'll know you'll be forgotten pretty quickly by most of your fellow bloggers...no unpleasant face to face confrontations with friendships that have turned sour...having said that...you can form really nice relationships with blog friends, but we do have to face the reality of most...they will remain just that...virtual friendships, which require far less effort on both sides than do physical relationships...it definitely fills a gap in my life namely other people to chat with other than my son and hubby
And, if you are in this direction at any time, be sure to let me know...
Great big hugs...XX
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- http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
- 01.03.2008 @ 00:24:12
Everybody here is a winner my friend. We all benefit from each other in one form or another.
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- http://www.jenniferhunter.co.uk
- 01.03.2008 @ 10:24:14
Yes, sweet thing, but it would nice if we were benefiting without the need for divisions into public winners and losers...big hugs to you...




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I think Landers would be absolutely gutted to think anyone feels like that, they're always seen as a bit of fun really.
I don't think many people got through the previous year thinking "oh yeah, if I do this I can get nominated for/win a bloscar" but its a bit of mindless entertainment on the top of the year for everyone to get into.
It gives people a chance to spread out, find new blogs, meet new bloggers, I know some people I nominated weren't even on my friends list before although a couple are now.
It's a tricky one, part of me can see your competetive point but I'd also say most is done in fun, sometimes people take it too seriously which is when problems can start.
I'd say it's more about the night and the togetherness of getting blogworld chatting in one place, on one blog than it is any competition.
Just my thoughts really *shrug*